Questioning Being Free of Anger

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THE QUESTION

What does it mean to become free of anger without becoming free of what mattered?

The desire to be free of anger can raise another Question: what do I believe the anger is preserving? Being free of anger may - or may not - mean forgetting, forgiving, approving, reconciling, changing a judgment, giving up accountability, or ceasing to care. Before deciding what freedom should look like, Question what freedom means here.

A QUESTION TO HOLD

What do I believe I would lose if I were no longer angry?

BEGIN WHERE SOMETHING GETS YOUR ATTENTION.

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BEGIN HERE

What would "free of anger" mean to me?

No anger present?
Anger no longer lasting?
Remembering without re-entering it?
Not acting from anger?
Not giving anger my attention?
No longer needing anger to preserve meaning?
Something else?

What am I using my anger to keep true?

What happened mattered?
A boundary was crossed?
Someone was harmed?
I still care?
Accountability is still needed?
I have not forgotten?

TENSION

Would those things stop being true if the anger changed?

WHAT ARE YOU NOTICING?

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ANGER / ACTION

Is there still something I want or need to do?

Speak?
Report?
Leave?
Confront?
Repair?
Protect?
Change a boundary?
Ask for accountability?
Support another Human?

Does that action require me to remain angry?

What am I waiting for before I give myself permission to stop being angry?

FREEDOM / DEPENDENCE

Have I made my freedom dependent on another Human's response?

Do they need to apologize?
Understand?
Change?
Agree?
Accept responsibility?
Experience a consequence?

What belongs to them - and what belongs to me?

QUESTION / RESPONSE / WHAT I'M NOTICING

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LET THE QUESTION MOVE

What do I want to carry forward if anger is not what I carry?

Memory?
A boundary?
A lesson?
Care?
Action?
Accountability?
Solidarity?
A changed relationship?
Nothing?

TODAY

What would being free of this anger mean today?

LOOK AGAIN THROUGH THE THREE LENSES

SELF

What am I requiring anger to carry for me?

SYSTEMS

What, if anything, still belongs to the System to address?

SOCIETY

What larger meaning am I afraid would be lost if my anger changed?

BRING THE QUESTION BACK

What still matters?
What still requires action?
What do I believe I would lose if the anger changed?

What does this reveal about Being Human?

Answers can come from anywhere. Questioning remains yours.

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