Questioning Anger and Action

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THE QUESTION

What does my anger seem to be asking me to do?

Anger can create urgency, energy, clarity, and a desire to act. The desire to act and the action I ultimately choose are not necessarily the same thing. Questioning Anger and Action asks what the anger is pointing toward, what outcome I want, and what remains mine to choose.

A QUESTION TO HOLD

Does anger point me toward action - or decide the action for me?

BEGIN WHERE SOMETHING GETS YOUR ATTENTION.

You do not have to answer every Question.

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BEGIN HERE

What do I want to do because I am angry?

Speak?
Confront?
Leave?
Protect?
Report?
Correct?
Withdraw?
Set a boundary?
Demand accountability?
Change something?
Do nothing yet?

What am I hoping this action will accomplish?

Stop something?
Change behavior?
Be heard or understood?
Create distance or protection?
Restore fairness or accountability?
Regain a sense of control?
Something else?

TENSION

What am I allowing myself to do because of how angry I am?

Would I still choose this action if I were not angry?

WHAT ARE YOU NOTICING?

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CHOICE / CONSEQUENCE

What am I actually choosing to do?

What do I know before I act?
What am I assuming before I act?
Who or what am I actually trying to affect?
Is my action directed at what actually needs to change?
What could happen because I take this action?

Am I willing to own the consequences of the action I choose?

TIMING / OUTCOME

Does this need action now?

What changes if I act now?
What changes if I wait?
What might become clearer?
What might become harder?

What outcome would make this action feel complete?

QUESTION

Is that outcome within my control?

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LET THE QUESTION MOVE

What still belongs to ACT even if FEEL changes?

A boundary?
A report?
A conversation?
A consequence?
Protection?
Repair?
Distance?
Nothing?

LOOK AGAIN

Does my anger need to remain for the action to remain necessary?

LOOK AGAIN THROUGH THE THREE LENSES

SELF

What am I trying to change through the action I want to take?

SYSTEMS

What action, if any, belongs to the System rather than to me?

SOCIETY

What larger change do I want this action to contribute to?

BRING THE QUESTION BACK

What does my anger seem to be asking me to do?
What am I actually choosing to do?
Would I still choose it if the anger changed?

What does this reveal about Being Human?

Answers can come from anywhere. Questioning remains yours.

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