Questions to Bring to Any Relationship

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QUESTION ANYTHING

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THE QUESTION

What becomes visible when I Question the relationship itself?

The same Questions can be brought to Self, another Human, Purpose, Systems, or Society. The structure can repeat without requiring the answers to repeat.

A QUESTION TO HOLD

What patterns repeat across the ways Humans relate - and what do those patterns reveal about Being Human?

BEGIN WHERE SOMETHING GETS YOUR ATTENTION.

You do not have to answer every Question.

THE BOLDER WAY™

QUESTION ANYTHING

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BEGIN HERE

What do I expect from it?

What am I expecting this relationship to provide?
Where did that expectation come from?
Was it chosen?
Was it inherited?
Was it ever Questioned?

What do I believe it expects from me?

What do I believe I owe it?
Who decided?
Am I responding to an agreement, a role, a norm, a history, or an assumption?
What responsibility do I believe I have here?

TENSION

What happens when the relationship does not provide what I expected?

WHAT ARE YOU NOTICING?

THE BOLDER WAY™

QUESTION ANYTHING

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AUTHORITY

What authority do I give it?

What is true?
What is acceptable?
What is enough?
What success means?
What belongs?
What should happen next?
Who I am?

When does an answer from somewhere else become my answer?

SELF / MEANING

What do I use this relationship to tell me about myself?

identity
validation
belonging
comparison
status
recognition
worth
success
normalcy
approval
certainty
meaning

Is the relationship revealing something about me - or am I assigning meaning to what it reflects?

How much of identity is created, maintained, reflected, or revised through relationship?

QUESTION / RESPONSE / WHAT I'M NOTICING

THE BOLDER WAY™

QUESTION ANYTHING

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LET THE QUESTION MOVE

How am I participating in the relationship?

What am I reinforcing?
What am I resisting?
What am I accepting?
What am I maintaining?
What am I creating through my response?
What would change if my relationship to it changed - even if the thing itself did not?

One Question can open more than one relationship.

FIVE PLACES TO BEGIN

SELF

How am I relating to myself?

OTHER HUMANS

How am I relating to another Human?

PURPOSE

How am I relating to Purpose?

SYSTEMS / SOCIETY

How am I relating to Systems - and what am I relating to when I say Society?

BRING THE QUESTION BACK

What other Human relationships does this affect?
Where is authority showing up?
What meaning have I made here?

Follow the Question. You do not have to keep it in the category where it began.

What does this reveal about Being Human?

Answers can come from anywhere. Questioning remains yours.

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